What will be shall be

On getting married and having children

My cousin dropped a bombshell on his family and mine as well by annoucing that he needed to get married because his girlfriend is pregnant. It certainly came as a shock to me as my cousin is only a year older than me and still currently serving his NS. This is yet another case of carelessness at its very worst.

I am not too sure how many months his girlfriend is pregnant. After all I only see him a few times every year on special ocassions like chinese new year or my late grandmother's birthday. Even when we met, it is just the ocassional hi and nod of heads. Also I don't think its an issue you are prepared to talk nor discuss with someone younger than you.

I have only seen his girlfriend 2 or 3 times but I heard from my mother that they have been together around 2 years or so. So I supposed its ok to get married and start living together. At least they are listening to the Government and having children and I shall be expecting a nephew in a few months time.

I honestly don't think they are really ready for a baby this early. The financial strain will be too much I think. Now he had to get ready for the marriage and an estimated amount of $20000 have to be spent. It is really expensive to get married in Singapore, especially if you are a chinese.

They are not the first pair I know to get married this early. I have some ex-classmates who are also married due to such circumstances. Mind you, some of them are only 18 or 19 years old some time back then. But apparently they are all settled and living quite happily and so I supposed they are quite lucky. I have heard of many cases whereby these young couples get divorced after 2 or 3 years of marriage. What happens to the child eventually I don't know.

Young couples nowadays really should have been more careful. A few minutes of ecastasy could result in a lifetime of regrets and burdens. The best way of precaution is to avoid premature sex. It is better to stay a virgin till you get married(I don't want to die one though).

Anyway whats done is done and a child could be a blessing in disguise. At least for me I think I will really settle down and work hard to provide for my family. After all, I have always love children, a boy preferably :).

posted by malmoncolo @ 11:06 PM