What will be shall be

Lovers' tiff

I always think it's very interesting to see a couple having a tiff with each other, especially a cold war. Not that I'm a sadist, but it's really interesting to look at the body language portrayed by the couple. You know the kind of expression that says I-don't-really-care-but-actually-I-do.

Just the other day I was in the lift when a couple followed in behind. I stood in the middle away from the door while the couple took a side each. The man was holding a can of beer and looking down at the ground and looked very glum while the lady was looking at him with red, accusing eyes. I assumed the red eyes came from the results of crying.

Not a word was spoken between them and the atmosphere was stagnant. I felt extremely awkward and just looked at the floor, acting as if I saw nothing. It was the longest 30 seconds of my life.

I believe that a cold war is always more scary than an actual war where both sides start to scream and hurl abuse at each other. At least both parties get to thrash things out and express their feelings at whatever they are unhappy at. The silent treatment is the worst type which normally happens when one side has already given up hope on the other.

When I was in secondary school, I once encountered another similiar situation on a bus as well. A girl came abroad(the second level) in tears and sat right in front of me. The guy slowly came in from behind and sat 3 seats away from the girl. The guy would turn round occasionally and looked at the girl with a guilty look on his face but throughout the journey before I alighted, the guy never once came over to the girl.

I was actually quite tempted to offer the girl a tissue but decided not to eventually. Reason one was I did not have one with me then and the second reason was the guy has a size of a body-builder. I was only 16, young and innocent and grew up with the spirit of a typical Singaporean - that is to mind your own bloody business. Things might turn really bloody if I don't.

But the worst type of tiff that can happen to a third party as in me like in the above 2 cases, is the one by a couple who are both your friends. The only solution is to act blur and walk off as far as possible so that you will not be forced to take sides. Or perhaps I should record a video of them to show them how silly they look.

My recommendation is if there is really a need to quarrel, it would be better if you all do it behind closed doors so as not to implicate innocent parties like me. It might result in an emotional scar in my pure and innocent heart.

posted by malmoncolo @ 2:56 AM