What will be shall be

An old friend

I remember I once had a conversation with a female friend few years ago.

“ You know, my future boyfriend must be very handsome and extremely charming, drives a car and also very rich. The best is he also can cook and sing for me as well. These must be the terms and conditions of my boyfriend.” she says.

“ So, have you ever wonder what you can offer to your future boyfriend? The plus points that can make your boyfriend proud of you?” was my reply.

There was an awkward silence between us and the conversation ended almost immediately. Since then we never really talked and ever since graduating from Secondary school, I have never seen her ever again.

I supposed she was quite offended by what I have said but believe me, I had tried to be tactful already. You know, the first reply that came to my head was, “ Then you will die an old virgin.”

I also don’t understand why I was that pissed off that time. Maybe I was really sick of girls saying,” I want this, I want that or I should get this or that.”

Look here, I am not trying to spark a war and I do know of guys who also say “ My girl must have good looks, huge boobs and extremely gentle towards me.” IDIOTS, who wouldn’t want that? I understand everyone has their own expectations but do be rational at times. Before you expect something from someone else, always look at what you have and what you are.

That particular girl was actually quite pretty and had quite a number of suitors. But she is quite harsh in her words when she turns them down. “Sorry, but I don’t think you are good looking enough to be my boyfriend.” That is how superficial she is.

YAH YAH..I know what you all are thinking about. You must be thinking I am that pathetic guy that was rejected by her years ago and here I am having my revenge by writing bad about her right? NAH NAH..sorry but I never like vases and nor will I like someone who always think she is superior to everyone.

To be honest, that girl to me is pretty, that’s all. Does being pretty means being superior to everyone? Being pretty doesn’t give you the right to look down on people. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure why she is never popular with her peers and most people will try to shun her as talking to her is really sometimes, a disaster. Her conversations always involve about how pretty she is and always deserve better. Yah right, I think she belongs to Mars.

I feel that it’s very tiring to constantly be compared to and living up to expectations. Maybe sometimes, girls should give their boyfriends a break and praise them once a while instead of comparing them to the other guys. I think most guys will keep quiet and I know deep inside, there will be a little twinge of sadness and helplessness. It’s the ego that is preventing them from speaking out. How about applying some empathy? What if it’s the other way round and you are the one being compared to? How good will you feel?
And please please, I repeat again. I am not sparking a war so please don’t bomb my message box saying what a bastard and sexist I am. Relax, I am only stating a fact and offering some tips on how to maintain a good relationship with your other half.

I also don’t know why this girl suddenly came to my mind. Haha, quite interesting when I think back. Hope she has found her rich, handsome, caring, loving and wonderful prince charming.






I know I am not the best but I am always trying my best to be better than the rest.

posted by malmoncolo @ 2:30 AM