What will be shall be

Marriage

Mother: "Eh. Your cousin getting engaged end of July leh."

Me: "Huh? Why? Accident ar? Why so careless?"

Mother: "No la. Accident your head. She and the BF together very long liao. So get engaged lor."

Me: "Oh....icic.."

Mother: "How? So many of your cousins either married or engaged liao leh. When your turn?"

Me: "Me?? You definitely won't see me getting married within the next 5 years."

Mother: "You sure or not? This kind of thing hard to say one leh."

Me: "Won't marry one la. I will only marry when I have at least a hundred thousand in my bank account."

Mother: "A hundred thousand?? You wait long long la. In that case I don't think you will ever get married liao."

Me: "Can one. When I retire at the age of 60, with my personal savings, insurance savings and CPF, plus minus should have around that amount la."

Mother: "Pls lor. You 60 years old you think got people still want to marry you meh?"

Me: "Have. I go China marry one sweet 18 year old show you."

She almost disowned me on the spot.

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When I was around the ago of 13 or 14, I had plans to marry at the age of 26. To me, 26 years old looked to be the perfect age for marriage. However, as I grew older, I started to become more practical. How much money can one earn in 26 years?

Then I started to push back the marriage age. When I reached 18, my target was 30 years old. 30 years old should be good enough. By then, I should have saved up a decent amount of money, enough for a wife and perhaps a child or two.

Gradually as I left teenage years and into adulthood, I started to think more about life. The cycle for most people goes like this:

Study hard---> Find a gd job---> Get married---> Have children---> Work even harder for the family

And then before you know it, your whole life has flashed past you and you sat there, wasted, old and useless and thought about what you have done in your whole entire life. You looked up and saw your once beautiful wife, now fat and wrinkled, nagging non-stop at you. Your children whom you have worked so hard for, well, you don't even see much of them any more.

Haha. Ok, I am being very pessimistic here. All right. It's not really that bad. Perhaps seeing your child growing up in front of you is good reward enough. At least you have a purpose in life.
But me being one who simply loves his privacy and fun at the same time, marriage is a huge hassle.

Maybe I will enjoy myself till the age of 40 and then start to even think of marriage and having children. I shared my thought with a friend of mine and he shot back," You not scared one day you go out with your son and other people thought he your grandson ar?"

That never once crossed my mind. Already at the age of 23 and kids are calling me 'Uncle'. What will become of me when I reached 40?

Next week I will book a plane ticket to China and look for my sweet 18 yr old. It will be too late when kids start to address me as 'Ah Gong'.

posted by malmoncolo @ 12:30 AM